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5 Ways to Connect With Your Neighbors + Why It's So Important

2/27/2018

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Community has always been something I craved. Something I desired. Living life alongside others just seemed right, comfortable, rewarding. Even in my childhood, the value of neighbors held a strong place in my heart. 

Over the past twelve years, I have only lived in 2 houses. Eleven of those years were spent on one quiet cul-de-sac with 19 homes. I started out home ownership as a single girl with roommates, traded in roommates (and a cat) for my husband, and eventually welcomed home 4 baby boys.

Our sweet little street started out with just a handful of kids, those kids got bigger, and new babies were welcomed, and our once quiet street quickly became a bustle of activity. Come 4pm, after naps and snacks and the blazing heat had subsided, you could find all us mommy's awaiting our husbands arrival as our kiddos rode their bikes and scooters up and down the street. It was quite picturesque. 

We were fortunate enough to call these neighbors friends, and were frequently welcomed into each others homes for play dates, dinners, holiday get togethers, front yard vacation bible schools, and even a bible study for the mommy's. It was a safe, comfortable, predicable little neighborhood that we had grown to love. 

And then, we decided to move for my husband to pursue a new career. 

We decided to say goodbye to the "cookie cutter" neighborhood. We decided to buy a fixer upper on 2 acres. We decided to buy it without me ever seeing it in person. We decided to completely start over. 

One thing I have learned from leaving the "comfortable" and stepping into the unknown, is that God has bigger plans for you than you have for yourself.

We bought our house SOLELY for the property. We could envision our boys growing up with endless adventure, and that's what we desired.  We were excited for the "elbow room" this property would give us, but since this wasn't a "neighborhood" we were moving into, we weren't sure what to expect from the people surrounding us. But, God knew, and He had set it all up...just for us (it seemed).  

He knew we would be lonely. He knew we wouldn't have any family. He knew we craved community. He knew that the people already established on this street would be a gift to us, and allow our little family to feel at home, much sooner than we were expecting to. 

We've now been on either end of the spectrum...we've welcomed new neighbors and we've been the new neighbors, and connecting with the people around us, actually living alongside them, not just physically, but emotionally, and if you're lucky, spiritually, your home will be much more full because of it.

Here are some ideas for connecting with your neighbors that we have implemented, and has brought fullness to my heart over the years.

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1. Play Date...with a Purpose

Host a big group play date, and turn it into a purposeful get together. Have everyone bring some maternity clothes you could donate to a local women's shelter, or freezer meals you could drop off to a family going through a hard time.

Or maybe choose a topic where everyone can learn from one another: Spring cleaning, where everyone brings their favorite cleaning products and tips to share, or shopping on a budget where everyone can share their tips on how their family saves money. The options are endless. Just get creative!

2. Mommy's Night In

This is a perfect way to connect with other mommies  when you aren't all distracted by your little ones. Choose a date and time that works for everyone's schedule, and a theme that will pique everyone's interest. It can be something as simple as a hot chocolate and dessert bar in the winter, sipping something cool in the summer, pumpkin decorating in the Fall, or a cookie exchange around Christmas. 

3. Cook Out/Pot Luck

If your grill has wheels, bring it out to your front yard! When hotdogs and burger patties are bogo at your local grocery store, host an impromptu neighborhood cook out. Spread the word and ask people to bring some sides and folding chairs. The kids can congregate on picnic blankets and run through the yard while the adults get a chance to mingle. 

This is also great for big games OR before the kids go trick-or-treating. We had friends down in the cut-de-sac who started the tradition of a Halloween get together before the kids went trick-or-treating. It was so special, that when neighbors moved, they always came back to our street on Halloween!

4. Join in Yard Work

Saturdays can be sacred, especially for young families who are always on the go during the week, but what a lesson it would be for our kids to learn to drop what they are doing to help others. 

When we first moved into our home here in North Carolina, we were severely lacking all the equipment we needed to maintain our 2 acres. Coming from a little cookie cutter neighborhood, a little push mower was all we had. On one of our first Saturday's here, my husband set out to start mowing the front acre...with the push mower. He joked that he'd see us in a few hours (well, it probably wasn't a joke at all).

Within minutes, our neighbor, who we had only met once before, showed up on his riding lawn mower and helped my husband get the job done in half the time! 

5. Welcome the Newbies with more than a Treat

After living on the same street for 11 years, it became easy for me to welcome the new families on the street with some bread or cookies of some kind. But it wasn't until we moved, and we found a welcome note on our door from our neighbors "across the field" that I truly felt the effects of what a neighbor truly represents.

What they did, that I never had, was left their cell phone numbers. After we got settled that afternoon, I texted the number, and within 5 minutes, our new neighbors were at our door, welcoming us and inviting us over for pizza the next night.

Those phone numbers became a gift and comfort to us, especially being in a new town, with no family near by. It meant they were allowing us access into their lives, immediate communication with no contingencies. That's a true neighbor! 

But of course....a good treat is a great place to start!!!
Love Neighbor | Dwelling Well Mom | No Bake Healthy Granola Bites
This recipe for No Bake Healthy Granola Bites was shared with me after my twins were born. My neighbor brought them over, along with dinner, and within an hour, I devoured them all. I blamed it on being ravanous due to nursing my little ones around the clock, but honestly, they were just THAT delicious! I might have left one or two for my husband...after all, he deserved a treat too :) 

Recently, our new neighbors brought some treats over on this plate. It's a Traveling Neighborhood Plate, and we were instructed to enjoy our treats, and then pass it on to another neighbor. I chose to make the same No Bake Granola Bites our old neighbors had shared with us. I'm sharing it with...wait for it...a new TWIN MOMMA across the street from us, who just gave birth to her boys...and I KNOW she's hungry!!


Love Neighbor | Dwelling Well Mom | No Bake Healthy Granola Bites
NO BAKE HEALTHY GRANOLA BARS
(Recipe adapted from Melskitchencafe.com
)

2 cups quick oats
1 cup crispy rice cereal
1 cup creamy peanut butter
3/4  cup ground flaxseed
1/4 cup shredded coconut
1 cup mini chocolate chips (or m&m's)
2/3 cup honey or agave nectar
2 teaspoons pure vanilla extract
2 tablespoons coconut oil
  1. Combine all the ingredients together in a large bowl, mixing gently so the crispy rice cereal doesn’t get crushed. Mix until well-combined. (Depending on the solid state of your coconut oil, microwave for 10-15 seconds to better incorporate into wet ingredients)
  2. Using a cookie scoop,  scoop out mixture into your hand and roll gently between your palms until bites are compact. Then place rounded tablespoonful-sized portions onto a parchment or a silicone baking mat lined cooking sheeet. 
  3. Refrigerate for 1-2 hours. At this point you can serve them or combine the chilled granola bites in a large tupperware-type container or ziploc bags to freeze or refrigerate. They will stay fresh in the refrigerator for up to a week or for a few months in the freezer.​

This is a great treat for the little ones to help out with too...if you don't mind them sneaking a few ingredients. I truly hope your family and neighbors enjoy these as much as we do!
15 Comments
Amy link
2/28/2018 02:07:38 pm

These are such great, heart-warming ideas, Christi! I think fewer a fewer people reach out to their neighbors anymore. Our family usually welcomes nearby neighbors with a treat and our phone numbers, but the ideas you described really help form a meaningful connection and sense of community! Definitely something for us to put into practice more often. Thank you for sharing! :)

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Christi | Dwelling Well Mom
3/1/2018 07:59:54 am

Thank you, Amy. So encouraging to hear that you also give out your # to new neighbors. It really does help that immediate connection that is so important!!

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Emily link
2/28/2018 02:42:56 pm

I love the idea of a traveling platter! I live in an apartment now and I love giving out cookies! People always look shocked because I don’t think community is a big thing in apartment complexes.

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Christi | Dwelling Well Mom
3/1/2018 08:03:28 am

Oh a traveling plate would work SO WELL in an apartment situation! Just think of how many times it could circulate around the building! I love that you still bless your neighbors with treats, even though it may not be the "norm."

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Donna Richard Miller link
2/28/2018 02:49:08 pm

Love this! I also love how you went on to actually share a treat that can be made!! So sweet!!

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Christi | Dwelling Well Mom
3/1/2018 08:03:59 am

Thank you, Donna!

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Mary Gallagher link
2/28/2018 05:33:53 pm

It really does mean something when you are welcomed to a neighborhood. I love your practical tips and the idea of sharing a recipe to make it happen! We need to reach out to our neighbors more than ever in this crazy, disconnected world.

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Christi | Dwelling Well Mom
3/1/2018 08:16:10 am

I agree, Mary. It is so easy to get disconnected from those around us, and just focus on our own busy families/lives, but what a difference it can make when we welcome those around us INTO our lives!

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Chioma link
2/28/2018 08:14:39 pm

Thanks for sharing these awesome tips to connect with those around us.

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Christi | Dwelling Well Mom
3/1/2018 08:16:48 am

You're welcome, Chioma!

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Kelly @ montanahappy link
2/28/2018 08:50:06 pm

You're so right on making sure you connect with neighbors. It's so wonderful having someone nearby that can be a friend or even be there for you in case of an emergency. Love the neighbor plate.

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Christi | Dwelling Well Mom
3/1/2018 08:19:59 am

Very true, Kelly. We've called on our neighbors SO many times already in times of "emergency." With 4 littles running around, there's always a need for an extra set of hands in a difficult situation. We are thankful know we have those people to call on, and they know they can call on us too!

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Debbie McDaniel link
3/1/2018 07:17:40 am

Love this! So much truth here, connection & showing love to those around us is so important, thank you for sharing this encouragement!❤️

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Christi | Dwelling Well Mom
3/1/2018 08:20:49 am

Thank you, Debbie!

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Betsy
3/1/2018 10:50:38 am

I've never seen that plate before -- LOVE! Can't wait to talk more about all this with you in person sometime soon!

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