You know the drill...
You're woken up earlier than desired by your little army of energy balls...
You change them, feed them, send them off to school, change them again, feed them again, pick them up from school, feed them again (change them again somewhere in there too), send them off to practice something, feed them again, bathe them, and put them to bed.
Anyone else's day look like this? No? Just me? Well, I have 5 boys under 7...3 of them in diapers...I feel like I may be in the minority...but you get my point...
And that's it...that was your day. Feeling super productive aren't you?
Now, as much as I do believe the saying on the infamous coffee mug :
"TODAY'S GOAL : KEEP THE TINY HUMANS ALIVE"
I also believe that we can CHOOSE to feel productive at the end of each day, aside from just keeping our tiny tribes alive.
HOWEVER...Before I go any further...
If you are in a season of survival...don't read any further. You're going a GREAT job if all you accomplish are meeting the basic needs of you and your family. When you're feeling like your head is coming out of the fog...then, feel free to read on!
If we are intentional, we CAN squeeze in just a couple extra things in our day to give us that feeling of satisfaction and accomplishment we mommies crave.
Now, that DOESN'T mean we strive to DO IT ALL EVERYDAY...
That DOESN'T mean we beat ourselves up if we fall short of our goals for the day...
What it DOES mean is that if we STRIVE to address these 3 areas, each and every day, we will end our days with a feeling of accomplishment...with a feeling that we were productive!
And most importantly...with a feeling that what we did today mattered.
Do you have an extra 10 minutes?? Lets see what we can do with them...
We all love a good baby registry list.
The adorable footie outfits, the cute little shoes, the soft and snuggly stuffed animals, the practical swaddles and blankets, early development toys, and on and on an on...
Yes, these are ALL necessities (well, minus the shoes...they are pointless regardless of their cuteness) and pretty fun to register for if you're a first time mom...
If you're on #2, #3, #4.....
If you're in my shoes, and have received the news of BLUE 5x in a row...
There is not much left that you will need for your little one, aside from diapers, of course! No items on a registry that you don't already have stashed away somewhere in your house.
There's still a little part of you that would like **something** to celebrate your new little life who's on their way to join your family.
ENTER THE 5 MOST THOUGHTFUL GIFTS FOR EXPECTING MOMS WHO HAVE IT ALL!!
My friends and family are masters of thinking outside the box, and without them, there would be no list like this in existence...
THE BEST GIFTS THIS MOMMA OF *almost* 5 EVER RECEIVED...
...wasn't something you could scan onto a registry...
...wasn't something I had to find a home for in our closets or drawers...
...wasn't something I had to wash or clean daily...
BUT IT WAS...
...something that saved me time...
...something that saved my sanity...
...something my baby would NEVER grow out of...
...AND something that made me SO HAPPY because I would have never bought it for myself.
If you're looking for the PERFECT GIFT for a family member or friend who is expecting, someone who seems to have it ALL already...
These 5 Thoughtful Gifts for Expecting Moms Who Have It All has you covered!!
I never anticipated this feeling.
I never prepared for these emotions.
I never thought it would be this hard.
My season of hard began when we decided to step out in faith, leave our home and families, and follow where the Lord was leading my husband...with our 4 boys (six years of age and under, including 6m old twins) in tow.
My season of hard continued after I realized how much I depended on the comforts of home, the help of my family, and the community I had built up over 30+ years.
My season of hard began to consume me.
I was drowning.
I was bringing destruction into my home...with my attitude...with my words.
It hurts to say it out loud, but it’s true.
At my core, I desire to be a women who brings joy into her home, who enjoys her children and points them to the Gospel, and who builds up her husband and continues to be united with Christ at the center of her marriage.
But, my mundane was blocking out all these desires.
The struggles of my everyday were leading my thoughts.
I was focused on the HARD.
I knew I needed the Lord to step in and change my heart.
And he lead me to Philippians 4:8...a verse He's lead me to many times before.
But this time...I saw the answer to my overwhelm clearly presented in His words...
"Finally brethren, whatever is TRUE, whatever is HONORABLE, whatever is RIGHT, whatever is PURE, whatever is LOVELY, whatever is ADMIRABLE, if there is anything of EXCELLENCE OR WORTHY OF PRAISE, dwell on these things."
I created this challenge from a place of great need.
I needed to change my perspective on the overwhelm I was feeling as a mother with young children, living in a new place, and surrounded with the needs of the everyday that had to be met, but maybe YOU need to change your perspective because a different kind of HARD is consuming you.
Maybe your health is in a state of decline.
Maybe a loved one has gone astray.
Maybe you have responsibilities and demands at work you feel are extremely difficult to meet.
Maybe this season of life has met you where you never pictured yourself being.
And maybe you're not walking in a hard place.
Maybe you're just tired of the everyday.
Maybe it's been a while since you've felt the presence of God in your life.
Maybe you just need a change.
I encourage you to join me!
Many moons ago, I was a substitute teacher.
It was a great gig during my single/newly dating (my now husband) phase of life.
I could pick and choose the jobs I would accept, and if it didn't work out, I wasn't obligated to return the next day.
An art position opened up one day, and I quickly jumped on it, even though the school was pretty far from my house...this one sounded interesting.
After showing up for what I thought was a "day" job, I later realized, the art teacher needed someone to cover for her for several months!
And the best part, I was able to create and implement my own curriculum (within certain guidelines of course).
My idea: Art Journals.
Each week, we'd study the artist, talk about one of their famous pieces of artwork, and then, in our own way, recreate our own version of the original.
Georgia O'Keeffe was one of our journal entries. I had been introduced to her artwork from a family I had nannied for and I just loved her viewpoint on taking a close up of flowers, and focusing on the details.
So, when education.com contacted me to see if I'd be interested in featuring one of their activities for kids...I was ELATED to see that Georgia O'Keeffe was their focus!
I have used activities from education.com for YEARS for my oldest son, as we explored homeschooling and educational summer activities, and I'm thrilled to be able to feature one of their activities here:
Its seems as though, no matter who you talk to, regardless of time of year, or season of life, everyone is going through a season of transition.
Whether you are transitioning from 1 to multiple children or becoming empty nesters,
transitioning to having your kids home to now going to school,
transitioning to a new job or choosing to stay at home with your kids,
transitioning to a new season of health issues or trying to start a new healthy path,
or transitioning to a new home or new place or just remolding your current one...
Transitions are happening all the time.
I've shared about the big decision we made this year to move our family to Boone, NC from my home, Jacksonville, FL.
Over this past year, we were in a season of transitioning from 2 to 4 boys, having our oldest start Kindergarten and homeschooling him part time, my husband learning a new job that comes with some travel, learning a new city, finding a new church home, AND remodeling our house.
And just recently, we were SURPRISED to find out we were expecting BABY BOY #5!!!
Talk about UNEXPECTED transitions!!!
Before the chaos of our move,
Before the moving truck arrive to load up the only life we knew,
We found ourselves in a season of surviving.
Just trying to make it to the end of another day.
But we soon realized, we can't live in that season for too long.
We needed to look around at or circumstances, meet the Lord where He had us, and learn to THRIVE in the midst of these big transitions we were living in.
My love language is gifts.
Not expensive ones. Not ones that take a lot of time and effort. Just thoughtful, simple, heartwarming gifts are where I feel loved the most.
A card, a bar of chocolate, a cup of coffee, a care package...just little gestures that ensure my heart that I matter to others. That I'm worth someones time. That's where it really gets me.
And you know what? My God knows that about me. He created me that way.
And He speaks to my heart in that way...IF I am willing to open my eyes and see the gifts He has so thoughtfully given.
I could tell what kind of morning it was going to be the second they woke up.
Legos dumping, bed jumping, car zooming, and the mischievous laughter before 7am did not bode well for any sort of calm morning...despite my deep desire for it.
I'm not sure how my kids wake up with more energy in one morning than I am alotted for the year, but one thing's for sure, that energy turns to CRAZY real fast if I'm not careful.
Too much freedom can lead to too much craziness in our home, and for me, it's a serious frustration trigger.
Rewind to having only 1 child (I now have 4), and I could already sense we needed some structure to the days that had no structure.
My oldest needed some gentle boundaries as he played or two things would happen...
1. He got CRAZY (and destroyed stuff)
2. He got BORED (and destroyed stuff)
It's a lose lose...no matter their age, no matter how many there are.
Independent play time has always been important for me to instill in my children. As much as I LOVE to get down and play with my kids and believe that the INTENTIONAL time spent with them is incredibly important, I don't want to be seen as their only source of entertainment. I've got things to do too!!
I knew I needed a plan to save my sanity yet still entertain my kiddos (and back then, with one child, I had time to plan).
I knew I needed to step in and guide his "free play" to maximize the minutes in our day FOR GOOD, cut back on the craziness, cut back on the destruction, cut back on the discipline, and give him an environment to thrive!
Snow days, Spring Break, Summer Break...whatever your need for some sanity saving activities, these 15 Minute Activity Stations will sure help break up the crazy and bring some sort of structure to your days.
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"What am I doing wrong?"
"When is this going to get easier?"
"Why are they not listening to me?"
"When is the chaos going to end?"
"I just can’t do this again today."
"I just wish things were different."
Does this sound familiar? Are you in a season of HARD? Are you down in the trenches day after day, struggling to make it? Do you feel like an emotional mess? Is it hard to find the joy in your days?
I HEAR YOU!
I AM YOU!
AND I would love to encourage YOU!
I believe bananas were created to be made into banana bread.
That smell they give off as they bake in the oven is like no other. And the moment it comes out of the oven, the impatience mounts as I try to judge what is "too soon" to take it out of the pan and when it's "just right" to cut that first slice.
My answer is always : IMMEDIATELY!
I don't know about you, but I LOVE the heel of bread slathered in butter...must have gotten that from my momma, cause she's about the only other one I know who does that!
You'd think that my enthusiasm and love for banana bread meant that I love bananas.
Quite the opposite it true, however.
I've never been one to peel open a banana and take a big bite out of it.
I've never been able to stomach the idea of banana pudding.
And bananas foster? Sounds amazing, and impressive, but honestly, I'm not a fan of that either.
BUT BANANA BREAD HAS MY HEART!
I've seen a hundred different recipes for banana bread and I feel like i've tried them all. Some are too "banana-y", some are too dry, some are too oily, some are "too healthy," etc etc.
Over the years, I have unintentionally tested and tried lots of recipe and have come up with my all time favorite.
***A little personal disclaimer...I am NOT a food blogger, nor a professional recipe tester. Just a momma who loves banana bread that thought I would share with her corner of the world so you could enjoy it as much as I do.***
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I'm convinced our laundry hampers have magical powers.
Multiplying powers. Vanishing powers. And powers that allow moms to feel overwhelmed that the job is never completed!
Several years ago, a friend of mine texted me, wanting to get our kids together to play.
I only had one child at the time, she had 3, and I replied, "I'm up to my eyeballs in laundry. Maybe another day."
And then she said something that completely baffled me.
She replied back with, "I do laundry everyday, so it doesn't ever get that bad."
Every day? That sounded terrible.
As a working wife, no kids, I had ONE day for laundry. I just knocked it out, load after load.
It was folded and put away before bedtime. Granted, my loads consisted of "whites" "darks" and "towels" or "sheets" (depending on the week) at that point in my life.
My laundry routine continued into life with one child.
One day a week...laundry done! No need to think about it till next week.
(I guess I should mention that I was cloth diapering our son at the time...so I actually did laundry more frequently...but it was just diapers).
Then child #2 arrived, and I felt laundry day starting to become quite stressful.
Not only were we adding an extra load into the mix, but with 2 kids, I stopped hearing the washer when it stopped.
I didn't switch over to the dryer as quickly as I once did.
The loads were piling up.
I wasn't getting them folded and put away before bedtime, and often at 10pm when we wanted to crawl into bed for the night, our sheets were in a ball on our bed...next to the darks.
And then those wise words of my friend entered my mind..."I do laundry everyday."
Oh the wisdom of a mother of 3. They see things that mothers of 1 (and even 2) don't see.
I jumped from 2-4 kiddos, so, I guess I can't claim getting that wisdom!
Enter the "Everyday Laundry Routine."
(I promise this isn't as terrible as it sounds)
Welcome to Dwelling Well Mom! I'm so glad you are here! I'm Christi, wife, mom of boys, Christ follower, picture taker, DIYer, chocolate eater, and coffee drinker. Born and raised a Florida girl, now braving the mountains of Boone, NC, I'm on a journey to find peace in the midst of my mundane. Join me!