Since I can remember, all I've ever wanted to be was a wife and a mom.
It took a little longer than MY TIMELINE had mapped out, but in those years of singleness, the Lord was building up the man that He had in store for me.
Now, almost 10 years later, this man has walked hand in hand with me through everything life has thrown our way...
through the trials that challenged and strengthened our faith,
through loss that brought more tears than I knew I could shed,
through joys that allowed us to truly celebrate life,
through decisions that ultimately taught us rely on each other and the Lord,
and everything "mundane" in between.
This guy has my heart for as long as the Lord has us here on earth.
And I couldn't think of another person better suited to lead me and our 4 boys.
HOWEVER, somewhere along the way, the mundane things of our life slowly began to take up all the space in my mind that my husband used to occupy.
The dirty diapers, the piles of dishes and laundry, the grocery list, the screaming baby, the routines...they all seemed to win my attention and we went into survival mode!
Just a year into our parenthood journey, I found myself feeling like I was just working by my husbands side...trying to make it to the end of our day with the end goal of keeping our son alive and happy until bedtime.
Our son and our newly found "survival mode" kept me from taking the time to focus on all those things I once held dear about my husband.
Yes, we were side by side, but not always hand in hand.
I needed to refocus my thoughts on my husband.
I needed to see him as "Husband" and not JUST "helper".
Several years ago, I was asked to share my testimony at a women's gathering at church. The topic was "Loving Your Husband," and as I read back through my words recently, I realized that they are still true to our marriage today. And if I dare to guess, I think they will always be true.
Loving our spouse is intentional, it is work, and it is WORTH IT!!
Throwing "Easy" and "Comfortable" Out the Window : 5 Questions We Asked Before Making A BIG Decision
Decisions are impossible to avoid. Immediately upon opening your eyes in the morning, they begin.
Simple decisions like how many times to hit the snooze button (if you still have that luxury...kids don't have a snooze button...I checked), what to wear and eat for breakfast, and as the day goes on, more come; respond to that text, answer that call, take advantage of that awesome online deal (I need this, right??)...they just keep coming.
Then there are the decisions that should be easy, but aren't, because you're indecisive, and you just want someone else to make the decision for you (that's me).
And sometimes, out of no where, a big decision presents itself and you not only have to make that decision, but you also have to decide what to dwell on in the midst of it.
The weight on our hearts can be great, and the pressure can be high on our family, but if we decide to respond and rest in the truth of the Bible, & ask the right questions...
"WHO can give us wise counsel?
WHAT could God could do in our lives if we follow?
WHEN is it the "right time"?
WHERE is God leading?
WHY is He asking us to do this?"
...we will come out on the other side with a story that can be glorifying to the Lord.
The following is our story...and it's still in the making...
Welcome to Dwelling Well Mom! I'm so glad you are here! I'm Christi, wife, mom of boys, Christ follower, picture taker, DIYer, chocolate eater, and coffee drinker. Born and raised a Florida girl, now braving the mountains of Boone, NC, I'm on a journey to find peace in the midst of my mundane. Join me!